Only one thing to note, respectfully, re: "mistreatment of his wife because deep down he was not straight and his self-betrayal made him hate her." It's true that, being gay and forced to marry by two cultures, he was caught in an insanity-making trap. But it's also important to take his ex-wife at her word, that he was seriously mentally ill for years, had horrible psychotic breaks even then (that seem to terrify her still), and was sadistic; and that she barely escaped with her life. He mistreated her because he was mentally ill (like his father also may be, and who possibly raised him in an environment of abuse and abused his mother). Psychotic or bipolar mental illness gets worse over time if untreated, and that seems to have happened. Then on top of that, being a gay man he was tortured by two homophobic cultures--the Afghani one and this American one, without escape. So those vectors together increased the force that disintegrated him, but I suspect that self-hate was not the "cause" of his psychosis and violent sadism, instead only one part of the biological and environmental forces that broke him.
Only one thing to note, respectfully, re: "mistreatment of his wife because deep down he was not straight and his self-betrayal made him hate her." It's true that, being gay and forced to marry by two cultures, he was caught in an insanity-making trap. But it's also important to take his ex-wife at her word, that he was seriously mentally ill for years, had horrible psychotic breaks even then (that seem to terrify her still), and was sadistic; and that she barely escaped with her life. He mistreated her because he was mentally ill (like his father also may be, and who possibly raised him in an environment of abuse and abused his mother). Psychotic or bipolar mental illness gets worse over time if untreated, and that seems to have happened. Then on top of that, being a gay man he was tortured by two homophobic cultures--the Afghani one and this American one, without escape. So those vectors together increased the force that disintegrated him, but I suspect that self-hate was not the "cause" of his psychosis and violent sadism, instead only one part of the biological and environmental forces that broke him.